Tuesday, Apr 11, 2017
Bethany-May Howard generated a lifetime of memories from her undergraduate experience
by Bethany-May Howard
It seems like such a short time ago that I was moving into Poyda for my first pre-season in the USA. Yet, in that moment 鈥 and it is just a moment, four years in a lifetime is not long at all 鈥 I鈥檝e managed to fit in so many new experiences that will live with me.
I chose Rider primarily to play Division 1 soccer as it鈥檚 not something that universities back home offer. But I鈥檝e done far more than that with my time here.
I鈥檝e met some of the most amazing people. My teammates have become some of my best friends and I鈥檒l forever be thankful to Rider for giving me the opportunity to meet the people that I have and the share the experiences with them that I have. And the best part about it is that each one of them is unique. I鈥檝e met so many different and diverse people who have opened my eyes to the world and to the different ways that the human species function and react. In doing so, I鈥檝e learned a lot about myself too. For example, I鈥檝e learned that, even though we all share different opinions, there is so much more in this world that unites us. Of these things, my favorites are laughter and happiness.
Of course, the education has been valuable, and I must give a special mention to my professors, particularly my history and French professors and everyone at the writing lab where I work who has made me feel so welcome and comfortable in my new environment. However, the most important things that I鈥檒l take away from Rider won鈥檛 be my GPA or my mentions on the dean鈥檚 list, but the memories that I鈥檝e been lucky enough to make.
Our trip to Disney World in Florida for the MAAC tournament my freshman year was an incredible experience. Coming from England, it鈥檚 also a place that I definitely would not have had the chance to visit had I not come here. It was a chance for our team to spend time together in a new environment and we had an amazing time. The rides were shut off just for us one night, which was surreal. It鈥檚 known as 鈥渢he happiest place on Earth鈥 and it really brought us all together through that shared happiness.
My sophomore year brought probably my highlight of my four years here when our team won the MAAC Championship for the first time in the school鈥檚 history. I鈥檒l never forget the music and the singing and the dancing that we had going even before the matches because we were such a young team that was just loving every moment of getting to play (and win!) with their best friends.
We then drew the University of Washington in the NCAA tournament so we had the chance to fly out to Seattle and experience another incredible city. It was eye opening to see another side to the USA and to see the diversity that exists here just within one country. It was completely different from New York and the other cities I was used to seeing here, but it was also definitely one of my highlights as I know it was for the rest of my team too.
Speaking of New York City, one of the best things about Rider is how close it is to the city. I鈥檝e been able to experience things 鈥 hockey, baseball and football games, Broadway, the Empire State Building, Times Square, ice skating in Central Park, the Christmas tree at the Rockefeller Center, St. Patrick鈥檚 Day, Santacon, the Statue of Liberty 鈥 that people like me can usually only dream of.
When I go back home to England, there are many things that I鈥檒l miss. I will certainly miss the American holidays and the atmosphere and excitement that surrounds them. I love Thanksgiving (especially the food!) and the chance to relax with my American families. I鈥檒l also miss the fact that for half the year, you鈥檙e pretty much guaranteed sunshine and can make plans to hang out outside or go to the beach and not have them ruined by rain.
I鈥檒l also miss how passionate Americans are about sport and how sports teams can unite so many different people of all genders, races and ages together over here. But most of all I鈥檒l miss seeing my teammates every day and laughing and smiling with them. Especially now, as I鈥檓 about to graduate, it鈥檚 really hit me just how much I鈥檒l miss these people who have become like family to me.
Although I鈥檒l be returning to the UK after I graduate to continue playing football (soccer), I鈥檒l definitely make time to come back here and visit again because I have too many friends and memories here that I鈥檓 not ready to leave behind.
These memories I鈥檝e made here will live with me forever, and hopefully, when I鈥檓 old I鈥檒l be able to look back and smile and laugh at all the things that I was lucky enough to do with my short time 鈥 the moment 鈥 that I spent at Rider.